We are moving towards Midwinter, the shortest day of the year. It is a time to reflect on our own values and how we can put them into practice. Our relationships too are under review. We are more aware of our desires and wonder if and how we can fulfill them with someone else.
So the main theme this time is relationships.
At the bottom of a Human Design Chart we find the Root Center. It connects us with the energy of the Earth, the ground under our feet. The Earth gives us raw energy and the drive to do something – anything – with it. Action is the point here. We can challenge someone or provoke a meeting just to make something happen.
The square in the lower middle of the Chart is the Sacral Center, the seat of our life energy, the Chinese Chi. Sex gives us life and it is the way we pass on life. Almost all the Gates of the Sacral Center have a sexual – and also creative – element.
To the right and left of the Sacral Center there are two awareness centers. First the center on the left of the Chart, the Spleen. This we have in common with the animals. Awareness is instinctive here: where do I feel well, what is the best way to survive? Decisions happen in the moment and are connected with sensory perceptions. In the area of human relating: does my partner smell right, does her or his voice sound right, do our bodies feel good together? Our body knows the answers and it is important to take note of them. The messages of other centers can be so loud that the relatively quiet, but immediate and essential voice of the Spleen goes forgotten.
The connection between Sacral center and Spleen helps animals find the right partner to mate.
On the right side of the Chart we find the Center of Emotions. Only humans have it; in our body it is the solar plexus. From here, through our feelings, we relate to each other. The connection between the Sacral Center and the Emotions is the channel of genetic dispersion, the passing on of the genes.
With us humans there are always feelings involved in sex. The range of feelings is vast, from the most base to the loftiest. Collectively we live in a field – or a sea – of emotion. We are unconscious of many of the feelings that drive us. And we like to deny this. An impartial look into how we relate makes it clear, though.
In a Human Design Reading I bring more consciousness in the world of feelings, which creates transparency in the relationship. We can ‚breathe‘ again, and sense the possibility to be ourselves and let the other have his or her space. In such a climate love can flourish.
In the Heart Center our will lives. Do I want to include this person in my life, in my circle of friends? Do I want to start a family and also become part of his or her family? And generally: How do we humans want to live together? We are made to hang out together. To say ‘herd behavior’ is offensive, we can choose how we want to live. Animals do not have this center. These days many of us want to live together in another way than the traditions prescribes. We have become more individual, society does not reflect our changing needs.
These days many of us wish to live together in a different way than the one tradition prescribes. Our individuality has developed and society at large has not yet been able to accommodate our changing needs.
From the personal point of view: do I do what the other wants? Or am I imposing my will? How does this show up in the relationship? Who has the upper hand? Questions that easily cut to the core.
How the other centers – Self, Throat, Mind and Crown – function in a relationship I will outline another time. In a Partnership Session they are always part of the Reading.
Happy celebration days with your loved ones. These are the people you have chosen to share your life with. And if you are alone, two things:
– Because of the changes in society, there are many things you can do in a group that fits your interest. Keep your eyes and heart open.
– look for the light inside. In the darkest days of the year – at least here in the Northern hemisphere – the energy is favorable for self-exploration. Trust me. I know.